Making Tough
Decisions
When it comes to
making tough choices, like: what college should I go to? Or, should I move out
of my parents home? Or, Do I want to go to college? Where do I want to live? What
do I want to do for the rest of my life? Where do I want to work? And so many
more, it is extremely difficult to know what to do.
What tough decisions
do you need to make?
James 3:17 “But the
wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of
mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy.”
Growing up, I
attended a summer camp outside of Austin, Texas called TbarM. I loved the
place! And my dream was to be a counselor there. My freshman year of college I
had applied to work there, and also a camp called Pine Cove, as my backup.
Well, Pine Cove called and offered me a job two months before I was even
supposed to interview for TbarM. Tough
choice. Do I accept Pine Cove and forget about my dream of TbarM, or do I
turn Pine Cove down and trust that I’ll get accepted to work at TbarM. I cried
myself to sleep that night unsure of what to do, praying and praying that God
give me peace about where I’m supposed to go. When I woke up, I had such a peace
about Pine Cove, and realized that my dream was to be a camp counselor, not
necessarily at TbarM. Comparing this situation to James 3:17, my confirmation
on working at Pine Cove covered all of the listed characteristics (it was a
clear decision (pure), I felt peace, I was calm and okay with working at PC-it
was unforced (gentle), the fact that I was being called to be a counselor
showed God’s mercy, I was confident (unwavering), and there was no hypocrisy
(obviously because I knew nothing about this camp and wanted to work there)). I
worked for Pine Cove for 3 summers and would work there full time if the
opportunity ever presented itself. I absolutely LOVED it!
1 John 3:21
“Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence before God.”
I encourage you to,
when making a tough decision, wait on
the Lord. If you feel uneasy about it, that’s most likely Him telling you
no, if you have a peace about it, that’s probably a yes, if you have no
feelings, keep praying! He will answer you in HIS perfect timing (refer back to
our previous study on God’s Timing vs Your timing).
This year, I started
working for a Child Development Center. I had a difficult time with the age
group I was with, but mainly with my co-teacher. I just felt not at all excited
to go to work and very put down around her. I prayed and prayed about what to
do. I considered going back to school, applied for other jobs, and even pursued
other jobs. But nothing felt right. I felt zero peace about leaving, but was
miserable at work. Finally, there was a situation that put me in my boss’
office and she asked me how I was doing. I broke down crying, told her I was
miserable, and that I was looking for other jobs. She told me she definitely
didn’t want to lose me and was going to see what she could do to get me out of
that classroom. Two weeks later, I was with the next age group up and had a new
co-teacher, who I get along really well with. I encourage you to stay put when
you don’t feel peace or confidence about something, God has something in store
for you, just be patient and lean on Him for strength and love.
2 Peter 3:9 “The Lord is not
slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you,
not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.”
How does this change your decision making ideas?